Waiting…

On Monday of this week we handed in our finished profiles and gave our signitures on our home study.

Now we just wait. We wait for the phone call that will tell us who our new baby is; the one that will change our family forever. Several people along the way of this adoption journey have told me that this is the hardest part. They were right.  You’d think it would be easy  and feel really great to turn everything in and be done with your part, and it did the first day. But now everything is out of our control there is nothing left for us to do but wait. Thanks for all the prayers and continued support everyone has shown us so far in this journey. Please continue to pray for us, but specifically pray for our baby and for our baby’s birth family.

THANK YOU!

A gigantic THANK YOU to all who have helped us with our puzzle fundraiser and with raising the funds for our adoption in general. We are so excited to announce that our puzzle has been fully sponsored! Beyond that, we are also happy to announce that we are fully funded for the whole adoption as it stands now. God has provided for this adoption through our friends, family, and community and we want to let you know how grateful we are to each of you for being a part of this calling.

Puzzle Fundraiser

*UPDATE 3/27* 317 puzzle pieces have now been sponsored. We only have 183 to go! Thank-you to all who have donated so far!

*UPDATE 3/13* 111 puzzle peices have been sponsored so far. Thank-you to all those who have helped with this!

Kicking off our first fundraiser! We need a total of $14,300 for our adoption. Right now, we only have $1,800 to go – because Jehovah Jireh is awesome and our friends and family have shown us amazing love and support. If you haven’t been able to contribute yet – or if you’d like to do more, here’s how you can help:

“Let the little children come to me and do not hinder them, for to such belongs the kingdom of heaven.” - Matthew 19:14

We’ve got this 500-piece puzzle which we’d like to hang in our home to represent Jesus’ love for children* (and His love for us as adopted children), but we won’t put any of the pieces together until they’re sponsored. Our goal is to raise $1000 with this puzzle, so each piece represents $2 from a partnering donor. You can sponsor just one piece or as many as you’d like, and we’ll write your name on the back of each. We’ll put the finished puzzle in a frame with a transparent front & back to represent the support and love given to our new child.

To sponsor, just click on the PayPal button and donate $2 for each piece you’d like to sponsor. Alternately, you can donate in person or send us a check. Thanks to all of you who’ve been on this journey with us and to those who are joining us now!

*The image in the puzzle is also special to us because it echoes how envision our precious Charity Kay, who we miscarried last year – hanging out joyfully in the arms of Jesus!

Home Study

We had our first home study visit today! Our case worker and her intern arrived this afternoon and we started off by introducing everyone and giving them a house tour. Through discussions with other adoptive families, we’d heard that the home study is really not a big deal; that we could expect for them to chat with us a bit to make sure we’re not weirdos, make sure we’ve got childproofing equipment, check our smoke detectors, see that our firearms are properly secured, and confirm that we have fire extinguishers. That was very true for our visit today. However, it was more enjoyable than I had expected. Our case workers are very friendly and they loved EJ. After the tour, we spent time lounging in the living room while they interviewed us (our family and our housemates) about our neighborhood, household dynamic, parenting practices and philosophy, church, community, work, aspirations, and plans. As she is shy, EJ took a while to warm up to them, but by the end of the visit she was a ham!

Next steps:

We have two more meetings with our case worker, and then we’ll create our family profile. After that – we wait!

 

-B

Update and Good News

First: so sorry it has been so long since we last updated the status of our adoption process. There has not been much to report on until today. This morning we received an e-mail from Bethany letting us know that they have received all of the reports they were waiting on for our file, that we have been assigned a caseworker,  and that we should expect to hear from her in the next few days!

Even better, this afternoon we received another e-mail, this one from our caseworker. She wanted to set up a date and time for our first home study visit. This is the visit where she will come to our house and make sure we have things like baby gates, fire extinguishers and the like, as well as start to get to know us.

Our home study has been set for February 2nd. We are very excited to be moving forward in this process. We would greatly appreciate your prayers as we prepare for this meeting and through every step in our adoption journey. I look forward to the day that I can post that we are officially waiting.

Lastly, I just wanted to say that now that I’m out of school and B’s classes are starting to pick back up, you will be seeing more and more posts from me.

-K

Paperwork: Turned In!

We turned in our packet of paperwork today! It felt really good to get everything on our end done and turned in. Now we wait for Bethany to get the results of a couple of things, then they will assign us a caseworker who will be completing our home study.

-K and B

 

 

Paperwork: DONE!

Can you believe it? We stayed up until midnight last night finishing our last bit chunk of paperwork for Bethany! This is by some miracle, as we might be the busiest people on Earth. We are waiting for results from some of our appointments to come back, but we will turn in our ginormous packet this week. On to the next step – praise be to YHWH!

PS: this chunk was our individual “Self-Study”, a ten-page questionnaire about our backgrounds, personalities, marriage, philosophy, concerns, and plans which we each had to complete. I just read through K’s. I guarantee that there is not a better wife and mother on this planet, and may have never been previously.

What’s the news? Well, for the past few weeks we’ve been occupied with our new hobby of paperwork and appointments. We’ve had physicals, fingerprints, background checks, psychological evaluations, interviews, training sessions and assignments, and plenty of forms to complete. Our housemates have likewise had to get physicals, background checks, fingerprints, and even up-to-date vaccinations for their pets. If all goes as planned, we’ll complete and submit our big packet this week! Woohoo!

Yesterday, I  came across this blog entry from David Platt. He and his family just picked up his new daughter from China, so he’s been writing and speaking a lot about adoption lately. Very timely for me. This is another one that very much expresses our perspective and passion for adoption – please give it a read.

Here are a couple of my favorite parts:

A child does not choose to initiate adoption; instead, a parent chooses to adopt a child. The same is true in spiritual adoption, as well. The Word is clear that in our sin, we were once children of wrath (Ephesians 2:3), alienated from God (Colossians 1:21) and totally unable to save ourselves from our sin in order to become His sons. Talk about special needs. Our minds were blinded (Romans 1:21-23), our emotions were disordered (Romans 1:26-27), our bodies were defiled (Romans 1:24-25), our wills were distorted (Romans 3:10-12), and our relationships were broken (James 4:1-4). We were slaves to sin (John 8:34), lovers of darkness (John 3:20), morally evil (Genesis 8:21), and spiritually lost (Luke 19:10). And the good news of the gospel is that God saw our need and initiated our adoption:

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us in Christ with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places, even as he chose us in him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and blameless before him. In love he predestined us for adoption as sons through Jesus Christ, according to the purpose of his will, to the praise of his glorious grace, with which he has blessed us in the Beloved. In him we have redemption through his blood, the forgiveness of our trespasses, according to the riches of his grace, which he lavished upon us, in all wisdom and insight making known to us the mystery of his will, according to his purpose, which he set forth in Christ as a plan for the fullness of time, to unite all things in him, things in heaven and things on earth” (Ephesians 1:3-10).

Understanding this biblical foundation of spiritual adoption is critical for understanding the proper motivation for physical adoption. We have a tendency in our day to romanticize adoption, envisaging cute children around the world (both domestically and internationally) just waiting to be adopted. Obviously, they are all cute in their own ways, but they are also needy…and many of their needs are great.

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Mere altruism will not sustain you in situations like these [parenting a special needs or even dangerous child]. Only the gospel will. Because in the gospel, you are reminded on a daily basis that there was a day when you were a child of wrath, filled with evil desires, totally unable to control your sinfulness, and desperately in need of Savior, and God reached down His hand of mercy past the depth of your wickedness in order to adopt you as His own. When there was no initiative to draw you to Him, He initiated a relationship with you.